A few weeks ago, we said good-bye to Bambi — our family dog and a close friend of about 18 years. He lived a wonderful life and is always considered my first child. We grew up together and in the process taught me a lot about responsibility. He was my constant and steady friend. After having children, Liam and Norah began to love Bambi very much, and although they sometimes avoided them, she also fell in love with them, especially at mealtimes. We used to joke that Bambi was deaf at the time the babies were born! Although he was an adult, I didn’t really want to think about how I could cope with the death of a pet — I just loved him so much.
But 18 years and a long life for a dog and seeing him grow up was not easy, as you can imagine. After much discussion, my husband and I decided that it was time to say good-bye. Although I was prepared for what the event would look like to me, I had no idea how to explain what was happening to our very young children. So here are some suggestions on how to look or get an appointment for antique items. Hopefully, this advice on how to deal with the loss of a pet can help you too in times of crisis.
Farewell To The Lap Of Love
We decided to give Bambi our home and the Lap of Love hospice, and he gave me the best possible support for the children he met. Since my children are very young and cannot express their feelings, we used a coloring book with simple words: Bambi’s body is out of action and he is leaving tomorrow for heaven. Lap of Love made a Bambi clay painting that we shared with the children.
A few weeks have passed and the children are still asking about Bambi, so I thought it would be a good idea to go to a few pediatricians to see if they have any ideas on how to manage this change. I know I am not the only one who is experiencing this kind of situation, so if you are experiencing the death of an animal and having small children, I hope this advice is useful to you as well.
Advice From Child Support Workers
Rebecca Kason (PsyD) and Yasmin Henning are two pediatricians who were kind enough to offer advice on how to help young people cope with this death. Here are some tips that have really helped my children.
“First, explain what happened in a simple, clear way,” says Kason. “Do not multiply! Something as simple as Bambi dies and never comes back. There is no need to elaborate or provide any additional information. Imphemisms can also confuse a child, so be careful with mild, clear words. Encourage your child to ask questions, and make your answers clear, honest, clear, concise, and concise. Do not provide more information than you are asked for. ”
Another piece of advice from Henning is to embrace all ideas. “Children react differently when they hear of the death of a loved one,” she says. Some will cry and may be very upset or may not feel like taking action. Others may ask you many questions. All sensations are good. Answer their questions and share your thoughts. ”
But the important thing to remember is that all your thoughts as a parent are good. As Henning explains. “It is not good to feel sad or to cry in front of your children. You might let them know, ‘I’m sorry right now. I really miss Bambi. ‘ It is good and even necessary for children to witness different opinions. You are showing them that it is okay to have these great ideas and that they go. ”
All in all, it is very important that you do not overwhelm your children or your children’s ideas. Losing a pet is very difficult and very difficult and there is no need to refrain from expressing your feelings, even in the presence of your children. While it may sound very straightforward to describe exactly what happened to the youngsters, the sugar conditioning will only confuse them and make it more difficult to understand down the road as they grow up. For additional information, in addition to the coloring paper for my kids’ favorite pets, I have included the following notes:
Since Bambi, our house has not been the same. His physical presence is sorely needed, but his spirit remains in my mind for the rest of my life. I know she is in heaven somewhere enjoying the dishes she loves as the true queen she is. Thank you for all the good times, for teaching me to be responsible and patient, and for the love and everlasting comfort that he gave me during the most difficult times in my life. I am with you, Bambi. I love you and miss you.
If you or someone you know is experiencing similar situations, please do not hesitate to contact your friends and chat! My Dbr @brandyjoysmith is open if you need help during this difficult time.